My wife and I were married for 9 years and had 2 children when we first talked about getting divorced. We’d already been through three different stints of couples counseling to address various issues. But some differences between us were irreconcilable, and we felt it was time to separate. Ten months later, I moved out. We lived separated, under one roof, for nearly a year. Why so long? We feared how divorce would affect our children (age 3 and 7 at the time). We feared we might regret leg
